Listening.
When I listen to reply, I'm focused on 'winning.'
When I listen to understand, I'm focused on the other person.
It's a lesson I've learned after being in many, many arguments and stressful positions.
It doesn't always work, but it works enough.
Or to put it another way: Trying to come up with the right thing to say is focused on me. Trying to understand is focused on whomever is speaking.
I was going to write more about an incident, but Shane keeps talking to me across the room! He wants me to listen non-stop! Every time he does anything in Super Metroid he wants me to look and celebrate. That really cuts into my ability to focus!
At least I got this much down.
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